I don't want to be a harsh parent, but I also don't want to give into the demands of my child. Is there a middle ground where I can parent with kindness and firmness? Or is it a myth?
I hear you! I've been 'chewing' on it myself. I think balance is always key. There have been times where I have let things go or just yielded per se. This time, I felt the need to stand my ground a bit more. Also, I keep in mind that my son doesn't have any siblings so he doesn't have that natural checks and balances that you get when you have brothers and sisters. So for our household, it's so EASY to let him have his way and that's not always a bad thing. But, I just realized that if he had siblings and he wanted to take their turn to choose a family fun activity, there would have most likely been a fight of some sort LOL. So, I was like maybe this is going to be our stretch as a family and let this be a learning opportunity for all of us!
I love how you handled this situation. I tend to give in too much, but I def see the value in doing what you did. Parenting with kindness and firmness is something we need to work on in our household. Thanks for the great read and tips!
Yes I hear you! Sometimes I feel like I am a pendulum where I give in or I get too firm and my words come out harshly than intended. So it's definitely a process to hit a right balance. I've made a ton of mistakes than I'd like to admit but every mistake is an opportunity to learn and connect. With my little one being an only child, giving in often feels like the 'harmless' thing to do because he doesn't have siblings to naturally keep him in check LOL so I feel like I need to have a more balanced approach insha Allah!
Subhanallah that would have been so hard for me and I definitely would have caved, thinking oh it’s ok and not a big deal.
But the wisdom in how you handled it has longer-lasting and further-reaching implications than coming to a quick resolution for the sake of coming to a quick resolution.
I appreciate the take and will chew on this a little more as I move though my days and interactions with my family 🤔🤔🤔
Family meetings Tasniya-style have been a game changer for us and have already brought us even closer. We’re enjoying settling in to the new routine.
I hear you! I've been 'chewing' on it myself. I think balance is always key. There have been times where I have let things go or just yielded per se. This time, I felt the need to stand my ground a bit more. Also, I keep in mind that my son doesn't have any siblings so he doesn't have that natural checks and balances that you get when you have brothers and sisters. So for our household, it's so EASY to let him have his way and that's not always a bad thing. But, I just realized that if he had siblings and he wanted to take their turn to choose a family fun activity, there would have most likely been a fight of some sort LOL. So, I was like maybe this is going to be our stretch as a family and let this be a learning opportunity for all of us!
I love how you handled this situation. I tend to give in too much, but I def see the value in doing what you did. Parenting with kindness and firmness is something we need to work on in our household. Thanks for the great read and tips!
Yes I hear you! Sometimes I feel like I am a pendulum where I give in or I get too firm and my words come out harshly than intended. So it's definitely a process to hit a right balance. I've made a ton of mistakes than I'd like to admit but every mistake is an opportunity to learn and connect. With my little one being an only child, giving in often feels like the 'harmless' thing to do because he doesn't have siblings to naturally keep him in check LOL so I feel like I need to have a more balanced approach insha Allah!
Subhanallah that would have been so hard for me and I definitely would have caved, thinking oh it’s ok and not a big deal.
But the wisdom in how you handled it has longer-lasting and further-reaching implications than coming to a quick resolution for the sake of coming to a quick resolution.
I appreciate the take and will chew on this a little more as I move though my days and interactions with my family 🤔🤔🤔
Family meetings Tasniya-style have been a game changer for us and have already brought us even closer. We’re enjoying settling in to the new routine.